I went to a world renowned all girls college prep high school in NJ – Kent Place School.
I graduated from a phenomenal all women’s college – Spelman College
Upon graduation, I became a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. with Beta Alpha Omega grad chapter in Newark, NJ.
Through all these years, I have acquired an awesome roster of girlfriends. We live all across the country pursuing all kinds of degrees & careers, and i’m really just quite proud of us. I know sooooo many women who are pretty, smart, paid, funny, loyal, (and yes, some crazy, but it happens). I’m super proud to be a part of this black women’s movement that’s going on. I truly think that one day someone will look back and do a study on how exceptional my peers are.
Post-Sunday rituals (church, hair, & food) I met up with a wonderful set of 12 women at the end of brunch. It was really just a mix of my honorary roomies’ friends (Shout to Jess & Chandra) but we got together to take a picture, and I got a little emotional. It felt great to be amongst greatness. And for a split second, I thought to myself ‘hmm, there really are a lot of fabulous single black women, i get why men don’t settle down’
For us to understand the black male dilemma, we must put ourselves in their shoes, for a moment, something that is so far fetched it has actually never crossed my mind.
Picture this: a ton of single, intelligent, fun, well-dressed, loyal & successful men at your fingertips dying to be with you. At dinner, you look to your left and there’s a table full of them. In your GMAT class all the dudes are hot. Go to the club, and hot men flock to you.
OMG – that would surely be heaven. Black men apparently had it so bad the past few hundred years that God has rewarded the one’s who persevered with heaven on earth.
Don’t know about you, but I surely wouldn’t be settling down for marriage & children until the doctor tells me my last egg is about to go. At which point, I would inquire about freezing eggs, so I could play with all the hot men just a little while longer. Or, I would play until I’m not desirable enough to get top notch men anymore.
So today, black men get a break. I feel you. Play on playa. Get it out of your system now while you still got it. That way, you’ll be faithful & sick of playing the field by the time you get married 🙂